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Archive for May, 2009

Have you ever noticed how people just hate to be wrong? It’s interesting to me that some people get something in their mind as “the absolute truth” about one thing or another in life and they just hate it when people challenge them on it.

When you choose to dream it is important to give yourself permission to go beyond other people’s Model of the World. Just because someone else thinks it can’t be done doesn’t mean you can’t do it. There was an old Zen proverb that said: The wise man said it couldn’t be done…and the fool came along and did it.

In that case, I like to play the fool. I like it when I accidentally mess with other people’s model of the world — I don’t make it a rule (although it is fun sometimes to do it with intention … but that’s something for NLPDarkArts.com) in the sense that I need people to say I can’t do something before I get the motivation to prove them wrong and do it. No, I think it’s best to just go do what you dream of doing and simple leave the limitations to others …

Original Source for the Cartoon:
http://www.collectedcurios.com/sequentialart.php?s=535

IMHO, if one is going to dream it is best to dream big!

I mean, what’s the point in dreaming small? Anthony Robbins, the famous motivational speaker, tells a story about how he was approached by a homeless man once. The man asked him if he could spare a quarter, and Tony replied, “Just a quarter?” Not wanting to ask too much the transient said, “Yeah. Just one quarter is all I’m asking for … it would really help me out.”

So Anthony (being rich and famous) pulled out a money clip with a wad of $100.00 bills. He made sure the man saw it as he dug through the money to find a quarter. Tony handed the man his quarter, and the moral of the story is: Whatever you ask for in this world is often all you get — so if you’re going to ask for your dreams to come true … remember to dream big!

It is amazing how many people still feel that websites are over-rated! Businesses that don’t have websites have to be insane in today’s market — the number of people who go to the internet before the phone book to research available goods and services in their area! OMG! You would think it obvious when Google filters your search results for people in your area first.

So, why do people avoid getting online? What keeps people thinking this whole World Wide Web thing is just a fad? — My guess is fear. When people don’t know how to do something or they don’t understand it, then it can seem scary. I mean, nobody likes to fail and if you are certain that you don’t really know how to do it … well … failure can seem almost certain … UNTIL NOW!!

A colleague (and close personal friend) of mine has (after much poking and prodding from friends, family and people in the local business community) put together a complete, take-me-by-the-hand, step-by-step, through-every-tiny-detail, 2-day workshop for people to build a website … and learn how to keep it up to date with minimal effort!

Her name is Jodie Gastel and she is an online business guru who totally helped me turn my business around and put me on the map! Since I met her 2 years ago my business has exponentially increased in both exposure and income! Plus, the best part is that it is still continuing to grow even in these “hard economic times” that everyone keeps talking about.

With everyone crying “Oh know! How can I make extra money? Maybe I should start an at home business…” blah, blah, blah — it makes sense that you would want to stand out from the rest of the home-based businesses on your street. It makes sense that you NEED a website! … This is usually where the sense of overwhelm and uncertain begin to set in for people: What do I do? Where do I go? How much should I spend on this? What do I do first?

Enter stage left: In Jodie’s Brain, the simple and inexpensive solution (only $250.00 for the whole course — that’s as much as people pay someone else to do it!), where you get a personal guarantee that at the end of the workshop you will have a fully functioning online website of your own design! That’s right, I said a ‘Guarantee’ that you have a working website or she will give your money back.

If you are even considering putting together your own website you need to check out her workshop:

Some people call it “Fantasizing” and others call it “Daydreaming” … whatever you call it, that’s the way to build dreams. However, it’s all perception — fantasy only happens in the mind.

Some might say this is a problem … but I see it as an advantage.

If you’ve ever thought about something you didn’t want to do — I mean really thought a lot about how bad it was to do it — then you know that dwelling on the negative can make it seem 100x worse than it really is. In NLP however, we know that the reverse is also true — if you really focus on how fun something is then you can literally build it up in your mind to be more than it truly is in real life. In these cases people will talk about how something was a “big let down.”

So you might be asking: How is this an advantage?

Well, if you use your imagination to create a fantasy around something you might not like doing, you can trick your own perceptions into believing it could actually be fun. Then, if you continue the fantasy in your mind during the experience (constantly reminding yourself about how you want to perceive it) then the actual experience can become a bit more enjoyable.

WARNING: If you do this too much you might actually start to sincerely enjoy the task — it happened to me with cooking as a kid … and I still do it today. The web comic Sequential Art recently had a cartoon strip that was exactly what I did as a kid and still when I cook today I get a little bit of a feeling like I did back then. If you ask my friends they’ll all tell you I love to cook … and here is why:

Original Source for the Cartoon:
http://www.collectedcurios.com/sequentialart.php?s=527

Question:

Aubrey de Grey, a formidable expert on the theory of immortality and aging, made a comment in a TED video I recently watched regarding “Global Trance” and I believe he made a damn good point!

How many things in this life and in our world are considered “normal” simply because the world has learned to tolerate it? So many limiting beliefs exist my meta question is not “Where do they come from?” but rather, “How do we learn to create limiting beliefs?” Aging and death are considered by science as fact because it is true. However, there is no reason for it to remain unchallenged or unalterably a fact when in truth we have the ability to change it.

The problem is that change is not predictable and thus, for many, frightening. The whole “better to stick with the Devil you know than to risk something worse with the Devil you don’t” is not longer an attitude that should shape our fundamental beliefs about ourselves and our world. It’s time to do something about it!

NLP has the Institute for Advanced Studies in Health which promotes the use of NLP teachings and techniques to help people alter the course of illness. The challenge I have for all my fellow NLP colleagues is to help promote the endless possibilities by watching for and challenging people’s statements condoning any “Global Trance” which limits not only them but the people around them. In my opinion that would be awesome!

And as for the Aubrey de Grey you tube video I mentioned at the start … it’s called “Why we age and how we can avoid it” and I’ve copy-pasted it below for anyone who is interested. I think it’s awesome (mainly because I’m still young enough to benefit from it) and I really hope it happens! Check it out: