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Archive for July, 2009

Many of us know that children look first to their caregivers as a source of wisdom and knowledge about “how the world works” … and as time goes on, eventually that awareness opens up to include other sources of information … their friends … what they watch on television … etc.

… now, in this case study we’re reviewing, it was no different … where the first hint of darkness lay was hidden within the mother’s behaviors. Although she was caring and kind for the most part, there were times of difficulty and anguish deep within her mind and soul … there were times when the boy’s mother became so internally focused and negative in her thoughts and emotions that her words and facial expressions and tones of voice … all her body language put together with what she said and how she said it turned dangerously hurtful … they left emotional cuts and bruises that would take a lifetime to close (but they would never fully heal) …

Within all of this the mother never meant to hurt anyone … she was just to wrapped up in her own issues that she was never aware of the damage her behaviors were causing — you see, the un-intentional mental and emotional abuse the boy endured day and night became his “life lessons” … she literally taught the child to be angry and depressed towards life and towards the rest of the world all around him.  Yet, he would not come to see his own unhealthy perceptions of reality until it was much too late …

For the now, little boy in our case study — going to school, having birthday parties, singing in school Christmas pagents — doing the normal things were little victories in his life … not because he got to experience them (no … the truth is that the actual experience of doing these “normal” things were even more terrifying because of the dangers they posed to inducing some kind of respiratory attack which would end in another battery of medical procedures … and he was learning that those procedures only seemed to get worse with each weekly return to the hospital) …

… all these little victories meant only that the boy’s regular daily experiences might, perhaps, be a little less difficult to face — you see, it would mean for him that fewer kids would be taunting and teasing him for a little while … there would be less sitting out and being made to do less fun things (like going to the library instead of gym class) … but these were still all just surface issues … the thing that would finally put an end to his childhood hopes and dreams was something that was hidden behind a smile of kindness and tender hands of love … his mother’s love …

A “NEW” Peanut Allergy Cure – WTF?

As an interesting side note — I myself experienced a childhood health issue that, although now it has become more common, at that time was rare and almost unheard of … I grew up with a severe peanut allergy!  Almost a decade ago I learned the NLP Allergy Cure technique which allowed me to cure that problem.  Recently there have been new reports of medical “breakthroughs” for kids who have a peanut allergy, so I thought it might be interesting to put together a research paper comparing the two … for anyone who is interested, the link to a free PDF copy of the paper is:  http://www.soaringsuccess.ca/allergy-treatment-methods.pdf

Most families seem to have their issues in some way or another … some parents have a short temper … sometimes one’s siblings are too rough, hurtful or mean with what they say or do … sometimes children decided simply based on one bad Christmas that they will NEVER be happy … yes, most families grow up experiencing some kind of issue or antoher within the family.

In the case study we’re looking at things are similar in the fact that it was an issue … but it was more than a single, isolated incident that created problems for the boy.  You see, the young lad we’re focusing on here had health issues which lead to his parents to become “over-protective of their weak and ill baby boy” … and this in turn made him even more isolated from life and the fun experiences his friends would all come to enjoy.

All of these things were combined with a more sinister problem running just beneath everything that was happening on the surface …

… The problem which the young boy faced in the case study we are looking at was actually very poor physical health … or at least, that’s where it all started.

You see, what the family didn’t know was that this little baby was born with a severe respritory illness that would lead to a life of nightly trips to the hospital (the parents worked full time even though they usually spent 4 out of every 7 nights a week in the hospital with their youngest child) … and endless medical tests and treatments that often involved severe pain and terrifying fear and total isolation.  By the time this little baby was 4 years old he had suffered the kind of traumatic physical, mental and emotional experiences that we usually reserve only for horror movies … and all of this happened with the single-minded intention of keeping him alive!  However, this was only the beginning … there was much worse in store the once happy little toddler …

… Having introduced the idea around our case study it’s important we recognize not only the perceptions of the boy in question, but how the people in his life saw things as well …

… The original perception was that “a child who grows up in an abusive home will learn to adapt simply because they know no better.” However, that means that a child who knows no better should (if the theory is true) mentally and emotionally accept their current situation as simple reality and not label it as being either good or bad, right?

… WRONG! — in fact, in this case, they were dead wrong!

The baby was the youngest child born into a family of 5 — now, let’s make sure everyone is clear … his mommy wasn’t an alcoholic nor did his daddy beat him … in fact, it was a “normal” family not unlike what most people would expect … and that’s exactly what the child’s point of view came to be as he grew up.

Both his parents were very loving and kind towards him and his 2 older siblings. No … it was a different kind of problem that he faced in this home …

… As some of you know, my favorite quote has always been from Einstein: “You don’t need to remember everything … you just need to remember where you can find it!” — (which BTW, I tried unsuccessfully to use as an arguement for open book tests in school) well, today I offer up myself and, specifically, the mistakes that taught me to spot this dark little trick of the human mind that holds us back.

But, before I tell you my NLP story, it’s important we have a case study to compare it with … in this situation I have an actual case study of a true story which I’d like to tell you about. This is an actual life story which literally focuses almost entirely on the process through which the mind of a kind, happy, smiling, little toddler can be shifted, changed and tainted in order to end up becoming an angry, cold, suicidal teenager …

So, I’ve been telling everyone who will listen about my desire to share My Personal Story with people — specifically, my NLP Life story — in hopes it will help you better understand your own inner potential (and possibly how to develop it even further).

You might ask “WHY?” … well, because I believe it’s time more people learned how to see the dark little tricks our minds play on us in order to hold us back from the chance of failure, as well as holding us back from any chance we could have for true success!

It was Shakespeare who said: “All the world’s a stage and all the men and women are merely players” … so, in order to keep it quick and easy for you to read I’m going to send just a short, simple few paragraphs each day as I take you through one experience after another … through the metaphor that is my life from darkness into the light …

Okay … so last night I got into a brainstorming session that lasted until the wee hours of the morning, and the end result was a theory for the strategy that success geniuses might use to become such a success so quickly.

Yes, it’s true that getting rich quick is a pipe dream for most (usually because it requires a certain commitment to the cause) … the problem that I had was around the perception that most people who make a huge impact in the world often do so at an exponential rate — it’s because if you put success on a graph it starts out as a very steady and small incline, but then there is always a tipping point where the line suddenly curves upward and the success grows exponentially!!

Like any good NLPer I asked that important question: How do you do that? … and then I usedNLP to model what I know about people such as:

• Dean Hunt;
• Micheal Lozier;
• Erin Blaskie;
• Tony Robbins;
• Joel Comm.

… and the results? — well, I got the plan

1. the ah-ha trigger (which I completed last night) … awareness
2. a 72 hour intense development session (which I MUST complete this weekend) … intention
3. the evangelization of my purpose for 4 weeks … focus
4. cycle through the model to check for necessary changes … new awareness

Now the question is: How well does it work? … well, I’ll let you know how it goes in a month. 

Well, I was incapacitated for several days last week with a really serious case of tinnitus (ringing in the ears) …and let me tell you … Holy Cr@p! OMFG! For a while I thought I’d never hear normally again! For a few days it was so bad I thought I was going to go insane!! It has really made me appreciate my ability to hear.

Over the last couple days the swelling from the ear infection which originally caused it finally started to go down. I can still hear a tiny bit of a buzzing noise in the background, but people no longer need to yell when talking to me so I can hear them over top the ringing sound that only I can hear!  (As a side note: I find it’s a bit awkward to ask people to talk louder because all the voices in my head are yelling…usually for them more than me –  ;p  — try it some time … it’s funny!)  And as a bonus … I can finally sleep again! — tinnitus so bad it keeps you awake at night is friggin crazy! FRIGGIN CRAAAAAAZY I say! Are ya hearing what I’m saying here?!

… anyway, I’m getting back to normal — which, as many of my friends would agree, is quite subjective when referring to me — and I’m starting to catch up on some old work … perhaps even a few new blog posts coming soon too … maybe … I hope … possibly …