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For all my NLP friends and followers who are also avid computer geeks … this is what one of my NLP workshops would look like in PHP coding:

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For everyone who knows PHP coding for websites and has taken their NLP Trainer’s Training Certification — yep, that’s about all I do.

  Boo-ya!

Okay…this was originally posted on Facebook by a wonderfully insightful NLPer, Anita, and I thought the information in it was so important I just have to share it with you…

Many times I hear people pronouncing”truths” about NLP (as if in a church), which obviously are based upon a non-understanding of what it is.

They say, “It doesn’t work.” At that point I look around and ask “Where?” “Where is this thing?”

They look upon me and say “What thing?” I say, “NLP. You said it doesn’t work. Where NLP? Can you make it?”

What specifically does not work or did not work for you?

They name techniques or a technique, name lists upon lists of techniques until my brain is fried.

I take a deep breath, look upon them and…..

I say. “So you say Phobia Cure did not work. How do you know he had one”? ” He told me”, they say.

And you believed him? Why? How did you make sure he really had one. If he didn’t you may have installed one, you know? if you did, you must NOW install a Phobia for a Phobia, which is easy. Just play a slightly different movie and add JAWS soundtract to it.

DONE.

What is he wanted to have one but didn’t get it YET. It is useful to have phobias of certain things.

For instance, Mother in Law phobia (that however can be cured with laxative tea at dinner when they visit SUDDENLY) and play the Jaws soundtract (gently) in the background.

Here is my response to them.

NLP techniques which are numerous, by themselves do not work. They are the tools we use within specific contexts. A tool, however great, is a usless tool unless applied for specific reasons in a specific context, with a specific, verifiable outcome to be achieved.

In order for these great tools to work, I tell them, they need to go back to the “drawing board” and be able to delineate the parameters of the context they are deling with. Make sure you are dealing with what you are told. If he says he a has a phobia, make darn sure it is and that he doesn’t want it.

Nine times out of ten, they have a different problem from the one they want you to believe they have.

Sometimes all they want is a “date”-with you..someone to spill their guts in front of, without any intention of having anything changed, expecting nurturing……… For this purpose, obviously, you will reach out for different tools ( I have a few for emergencies).

I think, by the way, these 8 year long weekly therapist visits are nothing else than contextualized dates. After that many years, people know each other better than spouses. Speaking of polygamy…….

They need to employ the observational skiils, listening skills and question- asking skills, to gather as much information as they can, in order to figure out the situation and how the context had been created.

When they are sure to be sure that surely they know what outcome they are wanting to get, the art begins.

Only then, are the tools useful to elicit the desired outcome (MAKE SURE, IT IS DESIRED, not just by you but by THEM).

In our view, training practitioners needs to be based on the principle of teaching a structure. Students must “organically be drawn to structure delineation. Once we know the structure of the client’s experience, we know how they consistently achieve a particular state, and what they want to change and why, our job is really easy. A structure of anything, including an emotional state ceases to be the the structure if the foundational elements are rearranged or removed.

In order to make a difference in someone’s life, we need to be able to reconstruct for ourselves the model of the world that client had been creating for themselves, understand the structure of it, design a new one that works, use the tools and then verify from our own and a client’s standpoint that this we wanted to achieve had been achieved WITHIN THE ECOLOGY OF THE CONTEXT.

Unfortunately there are many people out there who do not understand the elegance of these methods, and their power. They go into the world teaching others NLP and doing ineffective work with clients, leading to a misunderstanding of this incredible methodology and Richard Bandler’s original intent in Santa Cruz.

Its’ time for a CHANGE!

(The Original Facebook Note was written
by Anita Maria Koslowski)

So…if you’re ready for a change, and you want to learn the tools, techniques — along with the “elegance of these methods, and their power” — please check out the upcoming NLP Practitioner Certification Training Program being taught in Victoria, BC (starting in less than 4 weeks!)… you can find more information here:

Okay — this is simply IMHO — I think NLP is sometimes a little TOO accepting of other people’s model of the world…

First of all, to make certain we’re all on the same level — in NLP we have a set of presuppositions which allow all us NLPers to be more effective communicators… and one of them is about being more open to the realization that every person has their own way of understanding the world based upon their life’s experiences.

It seems simple enough — everyone learns to value different things growing up… if mom and dad were affectionate but poor it’s possible the son/daughter will value relationships more than money… if mom and dad were never around because they worked so much the son/daughter may value money over relationships.

The problem here is that some people do things in this world that seem beyond comprehensible — for example…

(the following is from the Not Always Right website: original post is Craz-E)

Coffee Shop | Baton Rouge, LA, USA

Me: *on the drive-thru intercom* “Welcome to [coffee company]. What can I get for you today?”

Customer: “I need an ‘E’.”

(The customer immediately pulls away from the intercom.)

Me: “What the heck’s an ‘E’?”

Coworker: “Oh, that’s for [famous lawyer]. I don’t remember exactly what it is, but he always expects us to know it. He won’t explain it if you ask. Try a [incredibly complicated drink].”

(The customer refuses to make small talk, and we notice him dump his coffee out his car window as he drives away.)

Coworker: “We must not have got it right. He’ll try the location down the street next.”

or even things like this…

Now, I know as an NLPer I do have the freedom and flexibility to communicate with people like these (because I have) so that I could understand them better… however, that doesn’t change the fact that in the moment — as a normal human being — all I can think is: WTF?

What could possibly be going on in that person’s head and how could they be perceiving the world to think that those behaviors are appropriate? What the hell would have to happen in my life to get me to a point that I’d actually believe that was the most useful way to act?

Boo-ya!

Once again I must send out my deepest thanks to the wonderful Catherine Mattice who recently posted a new, exclusive article explaining how to program healthy communication habits of today for situations of verbal conflict tomorrow using techniques of NLP.

For anyone who doesn’t know yet, Catherine Mattice is the expert who wrote the foreword for my new book: Verbal Self Defense in The Workplace: Proven Psychological Secrets to Help You Beat The Office Bully

I strongly recommend that everybody check out her blog and consulting company …

http://noworkplacebullies.blogspot.com/

http://noworkplacebullies.com/

Thank you Catherine.

Okay — so, as anyone who studies Law of Attraction will tell you, ya gotta set your intention and focus on it in order to make it a reality … and, as NLP teaches us, this applies to all your goals in life!

Well … Jodie and I have finally decided on the book goal for the first quarter of 2010 –

… our intention is to get enough publicity to sell 10,000 books in the next 2 months!

Which book you ask? … well, this one of course –

How will we do that you ask? (I was wondering the same thing, too!) …

… Jodie tells me the plan is to get as many people as possible to join us in the journey … putting a face to all the bull-chit we each seem to deal with at some point in life … standing together it’s a hella-lot easier to persevere than it is on our own …

Join the Verbal Self Defense Facebook Group

Subscribe to the Verbal Self Defense eZine

Follow Verbal Self Defense on Twitter

Subscribe to the Verbal Self Defense News Feed

If you haven’t already, please choose any one of the social media links above and become part of our dream … pass on news and updates to the people you know and we’ll forever be grateful to you —

… and like gusts of wind in the billowing sails, each person who joins in this quest will help to carry us further and further towards the promise of better shores … a new world … a world free of bullying!

(*yeah, yeah … the last bit might be a tad cheesy but I’m listening to Tchaikovsky’s 1812 Overture as I’m writing this so it’s okay.*)

I’ll be completely honest and say that Dean Hunt is the one who brought this video to my awareness (see the original post here) …

… however, I just needed to share it on my NLP blog, too. The reason being: I love being a Professional NLP Trainer because it not only fills me with a sense of personal accomplishment and pride, knowing that I’m passing on the wisdom, knowledge and experiences that made different in, not only my own life, in the lives of people around the world … doing this job fills me with passion …

… I’m lucky to have found my passion in life and made it into a career — and every time I’m going to teach an NLP class I get filled with excitement and anticipation … all the wonder and joy and amazing moments of personal growth … all the fantastic insights into the secrets of life and how each person can not only improve their own life, but go even further and help make this a world to which we all want to belong …

… it’s all these things that I see on the faces of my students, hear in their voices, feel as they fly out of class filled with excitement and a passion of their own … I’m an NLP Trainer (teacher) and I too can tell you — I make a difference.

  Boo-Ya!

Registration has now opened for the NLP Practitioner Certification Training program set to start in February 2010!

Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) has been described as a modern branch of psychology. More specifically it’s a behavioral science comprised of the most advanced study of human behavior and how it’s structured in the mind. This deeper understanding of how people think and behave has numerous applications in healthcare, education, communication, business management, marketing and sales.

Student Testimonials:

“You are a truly gifted teacher. I’m so happy that I trusted my instincts and knew that NLP was something I needed to do. Your humour, charisma, confidence, intellect, passion, and devotion to your craft is truly inspiring.” – Nicki Blachford, NLP Practitioner Certification Graduate.

“You are a brilliant teacher and communicator! Your style is unique, inviting and non-assuming. You have a generous spirit and have the gift of bring out the best in others. Your encouragement is invaluable. There is a quality of openness and acceptance about you that creates a safe and respectful space for all. Thank you for being an inspiration!!!” – Annie Hopper, NLP Practitioner Certification Graduate.

“Daniel, you have been a wonderful teacher and mentor. You make these skills look so easy! Thank you for your kind words and words of encouragement. You listened to and acknowledged all of our questions and concerns… Thanks for making this course so fun!” – Tracey Johns, NLP Practitioner Certification Graduate.

“Daniel… Your teaching style is wonderfully approachable, inclusive and engaging. From your playful “Boo-Ya” and “Shweet” to your intricate and spellbinding metaphors you had my rapt attention.” – Lisa Jellison, NLP Practitioner Certification Graduate.

Dates and Times:

1. Module I
   • Saturday & Sunday, February 20 & 21, 2010, 9:00am – 5:00pm
   • Saturday & Sunday, March 6 & 7, 2010, 9:00am – 5:00pm
   • Saturday, March 20, 2010, 9:00am – 5:00pm
2. Module II
   • Sunday, March 21, 2010, 9:00am – 5:00pm
   • Saturday & Sunday, April 3 & 4, 2010, 9:00am – 5:00pm
   • Saturday & Sunday, April 17 & 18, 2010, 9:00am – 5:00pm
3. Module III
   • Saturday & Sunday, May 1 & 2, 2010, 9:00am – 5:00pm
   • Saturday & Sunday, May 15 & 16, 2010, 9:00am – 5:00pm
   • Saturday, May 29, 2010, 9:00am – 5:00pm
4. Testing
   • Sunday, May 30, 2010, 9:00am – 5:00pm

Module I: Training Outcomes
This first module will provide the background and foundational base of NLP. You learn how the human mind filters and stores information and ideas, how thoughts are formulated, and how belief structures are created. Topics will include the understanding and application of the principles behind the Metaphysical Laws of Attraction as well as some advanced interpersonal communication skills.

Module II: Training Outcomes (Pre-requisite: Module I)
The second training module will look at the pieces that make up thought structure within the ‘Mind.’ You will learn the process of how to use naturally occurring language patterns to identify, utilize and shift behaviors at both the conscious level and the unconscious level. Concepts and practice of conversational hypnosis will introduce you to the idea of trance and uses for a trance state.

Module III: Training Outcomes (Pre-requisite: Module II)
This final module in the practitioner program is focused on contextualizing and framing language patterns and how behaviors are anchored to personal triggers. You will be trained in ways of connecting with a person’s unconscious mind in order to bring out their deeper resources, and how to access and work with their inner structure of time. Ways of applying NLP beyond psychoanalysis will also be discussed.

Your Total Investment:
The Total Investment is for the complete Neuro Linguistic Programming Practitioner Certification Program is $2,025.00, which includes ALL 3 Modules (individually each module costs $675.00). Fee Includes:

• 120 hours of training
• Extensive handouts
• Countless exercises
• Applicable tools and techniques
• Complete written and practical testing
• Continued on-going personal and professional support after you return home
• An internationally recognized certificate showing your designation as an Neuro Linguistic Programming Practitioner

Easy Payment Plan Options:
You have the choice of one full payment or the option of dividing your payment into (Note: first payment due upon registration and then every 30 days for the remainder of the plan):

• 3 payments of $675.00, or
• 6 payments of $337.50, or
• 9 payments of $225.00, or
• 1st payment of $210.00, followed by 11 payments of $165.00

For complete information go to:

http://www.soaringsuccess.ca/career-training/nlp-career-training/nlp-practitioner-certification-program/

Have you ever wondered what Neuro Linguistic Programming is and what is can offer you in the way of advantages and opportunities? Well… wonder no more! Soaring Success now offers a free 5-day introductory e-mail program for people who are interested in finding out more about NLP and what it can mean to them if they decide to take a full practitioner certification training.

To sign-up, simply go to:

www.SoaringSuccess.ca/Webstore/Free-5-Day-e-Intro-to-NLP/

Check it out!

The Karate Kid has been remade for the new generation and is set to be released in June of 2010, starring Jackie Chan as Mr. Han — this new film’s “Mr. Miyagi.” Having viewed the trailers, however, it seems obvious that the basic premise remains the same.

For anyone unfamiliar with the original Karate Kid from 1984, Mr. Miyagi was the wise old master who taught the kid karate. Most notably, Mr. Miyagi was famous for giving the kid “chores” to do in return for teaching him to fight back against the local bullies. What wasn’t apparent at first was that the chores he was doing were actually techniques he would use in the act of self defense.

In the field of Neuro Linguistic Programming this is a very simplified (and direct) form of “Mapping.” The process of mapping in NLP is a way to transfer a skill or ability (along with the mental strategy/behavioral pattern) from one context to another. The key secret within using mapping in Mr. Miyagi’s style of teaching karate was to avoid the negative feelings one often feels in the process of learning — that sense of shame that comes with becoming consciously aware of one’s own incompetence.

As a person progresses through the learning cycle of Unconscious Incompetence to Conscious Incompetence to Conscious Competence to Unconscious Competence, many kids will experience feelings of embarrassment and low self-esteem when they first try something and find they are unable to do it as easily, as effortlessly, and as well as the teacher (or as well as other students). However, for everyone who has seen the original Karate Kid movie, you’ll remember that the kid did things like painting a fence, waxing cars, sanding a deck and painting Mr. Miyagi’s fence. The physical movements of these tasks were then mapped across to the context of martial arts in the form of karate blocks.

Now, if you broaden the definition of “behaviors” to include things such as mental and emotional states, beliefs, decision making, learning, understanding, creativity, etc. it becomes possible to map neuro linguistic patterns across almost any context. If you are unable to find creative solutions easily and effortlessly at work, but you can solve logic puzzles in internet flash games, then NLP allows you to map that mental strategy from games to work — without the need to go through the process of unconscious incompetence or conscious competence. The same applies to things like believing you can do something (i.e. confidence). Your trust and belief in your abilities can be mapped across to other situations where you know everything you need to know, but you suffer from fear of failure.

Mapping does have limits, however. The concern is that whatever you are mapping requires you to have ALL the pieces. Just because you can confidently operate a car doesn’t mean you can simply map those skills across and suddenly be able to fly a fighter jet. The key is to take something you know and apply it to things you already have the knowledge to do. In the case of Karate Kid, Mr. Miyagi wasn’t teaching the kid to paint a fence; he was making sure he had the competence of painting a fence. Only then could he be certain it would map across to karate — all the movements, skills, and abilities used in working with the paint brush were identical to the movements, skills, and abilities to do that form of block in karate.

How many inherent skills do YOU have that you don’t even realize yet? What else do you think you could accomplish if you figured out the skills you already have, and applied them to something new? The process of figuring out HOW you do things, as well as how to use them in other situations, is a large part of any good NLP Practitioner training program.

Perhaps it’s possible… you may already know how to catch a fly with chopsticks.

Did you know about the new Oak Island petition that is being put forth to get the government of Nova Scotia off it’s proverbial rump and allow the treasure hunt on Oak Island to continue? If not, you can check it out here:

http://www.petitiononline.com/mystery1/petition.html

Ever since I first heard about the Oak Island Mystery as a little boy I’ve been fascinated to find out what treasures lay in wait at the bottom of the “Money Pit” … and specifically, I really want to know WHO put it there! — And so… I have added my virtual signature to the mysterious Oak Island petition… will you???

(BTW, for those who don’t know what the Oak Island Money Pit is, here are a few videos about it…