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One of the most powerful components of NLP is it’s ability to influence and persuade others. This powerful skill is something that sets people trained in NLP out front of their competitors.

Since no person is an island by themselves, the fact is that you will require the assistance of others in order to achieve your goals in life. This makes the skills of persuasion very important because there will be situations where you will need to shift another person’s way of thinking in order to convince them to help you (do what you want).

If you’re looking to find the most advanced techniques for persuasion one of the best sources is books and webinars on the topic of sales and selling. The same tactics for better sales can be applied to persuading someone to do or agree to do what you want. In a couple days 3 authors trained in NLP will be putting out a special offer on their books that will include over a $1,000.00 worth of free books, videos, audio files and more, and theirwebsite SalesPersuasionMastery.com is a place to find some good information about persuasion:

• Free Webinar: How To Create A Sales Character Using Acting
• The Benefits of Adopting a Selling Persona
• How To Create Your Own Super Sales Character
• The Art of Building Desire by Asking Questions
• Showing Interest To Deepen rapport
• Improve Your Sales by 50% in 3 Days
• Sealing Commitment

Beyond these freebies their book are filled with even more powerful tools and techniques for building your skills of influence and persuasion. Plus, they will be offering a ton of special bonuses this coming Tuesday, March 30, 2010 — I’ll be posting a special link that morning where you will be able to get all the extras (over a $1,000.00 in free stuff) along with some of the most powerful books on the topic of persuasion that are available today.

Once again I found elements of Law of Attraction and Intention Manifestation in my morning webcomics … and I had to share!

A key component of law of attraction is to be specific … BUT, the other thing is to be grateful for what you do get (Google ‘GratiDudes’ if you want to know more about being grateful with LoA) — so, how do you do that? Well, it’s called ‘Feedback’ — in NLP we say there is no failure, only feedback. What that means is the only way you can fail is by giving up, otherwise you’re simply making adjustments to your plan based upon new information coming in (i.e. Feedback).

This cartoon is the perfect example of that! — Set an intention and put it out to the universe … get feedback that the desired intent was not clear enough, so clarify and put the intention back out there!

The trick is to be able to take feedback as it comes without fighting it — most people want to fight against the current rather than go with the flow; however, SunTzu in the Art of War said that you should only fight the battles you’ve already won … so, if you choose where you put your energy wisely, Law of Attraction will work much more easily and effortlessly.

  — Trust me, I’ve learned this lesson the hard way!

BTW, you can click on the cartoon strip to be taken directly to the original webcomic.

  Happy New Year Everyone!

It’s now the start of 2010 and many of us are thinking about the coming year … but, are you picturing it a Booming Success or a Big Bust?

Well, as all us NLPers know, ‘move towards’ and ‘move away from’ neuro-linguistic patterns that people use — such as picturing a positive outcome versus negative consequence; or talking about what you do want versus what you don’t want; or feeling the emotional sensations of success versus the emotional sensations of failure — can determine where the unconscious mind puts focus and energy/effort. This can be very obvious — like when someone says ‘I don’t want to lose’ versus ‘I want to win’ — or it can be subtly hidden in a person’s non-verbal cues — like when someone says in a whiny voice ‘I reeeeaaaally want it!’ versus saying in a happy, excited voice ‘Oooooh, I just gotta get me one of those!’

The component I want to talk about today is actually one degree of separation away from that piece of goal setting wisdom — something that influences the way you imagine 2010 … and that something can be summed up in the old saying: birds of a feather, flock together.

You see, when I was overcoming my old procrastination habits, one of the suggests I read was surrounding yourself with like-minded people … so, if you are always hanging around people who are motivated and energized, human nature to be in rapport means you’ll start to take on those people’s behavioral traits. Subsequently, if you are always filling your mind with the negative side of every idea and story … well then, you’ll probably attract more negative experiences into your life. (Remember the yellow vokswagon syndrome — once something enters your awareness, you’ll start to see it everywhere!)

Now, the internet is filled with tonnes of useful (and not so useful) information … some of which are just plain hilarious! As a person who works at staying in control of old habits of depressing, one of the morning rituals I have is to spend about 20-30 minutes just taking in RSS feeds of funny and silly websites like …

• Fail Blog,
• That Will Buff Out,
• Not Always Right,
• My First Fail,
• Probably Bad News,
• Ugliest Tattoos

… but so many of them are about things that represent a negative experience … I always make certain to also take in stuff from websites with positive silliness like …

• It Made My Day,
• Acting Like Animals,
• Lolcats,
• Loldogs,
• Photobomb,
• Pundit Kitchen,
• Autocomplete Me,
• There I Fixed It

… and I read a few webcomics once a day, such as …

• Bear Nuts,
• Weesh,
• Something Positive,
• Sequential Art

This way I’m always getting a daily experience of something that makes me smile and keep my attitude more positive!

Now, that doesn’t mean we need to avoid negativity completely … definitely not! In fact, as any good NLPer will tell you — people should actually use both ‘move towards’ and ‘move away from’ tactics for motivation in everything they do. The trick is to keep a ratio of 2 positive for every 1 negative — meaning:

To get/maintain motivation for doing something …

… recognize the unpleasant consequences (1 negative) if you don’t do it and then find 2 positive rewards that you’ll get from doing it (2 positive)

To keep a positive attitude about a bad experience …

… recognize how it’s bad (1 negative) and then focus on how it’s only a temporary set-back/experience (1st positive), as well as finding a positive learning you got from the experience which will help you make more useful choices in the future (2nd positive) … BTW, when I say positive learning, I actually mean a POSITIVE learning framed in a ‘move towards’ statement (for example, rather than saying ‘I learned never to never get his help again’ you can say ‘I learned that it’s better to ask someone other than him for help’.

So, remember … if you want a good year, surround yourself with good people … if you want a successful year, surround yourself with successful people … if you want to be more outgoing, surround yourself with outgoing people … if you want to exercise more, surround yourself with people who like to exercise a lot … (I’m sure you get the idea).

Best wishes from my to you for a happy and prosperous year to come!