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Okay…this was originally posted on Facebook by a wonderfully insightful NLPer, Anita, and I thought the information in it was so important I just have to share it with you…

Many times I hear people pronouncing”truths” about NLP (as if in a church), which obviously are based upon a non-understanding of what it is.

They say, “It doesn’t work.” At that point I look around and ask “Where?” “Where is this thing?”

They look upon me and say “What thing?” I say, “NLP. You said it doesn’t work. Where NLP? Can you make it?”

What specifically does not work or did not work for you?

They name techniques or a technique, name lists upon lists of techniques until my brain is fried.

I take a deep breath, look upon them and…..

I say. “So you say Phobia Cure did not work. How do you know he had one”? ” He told me”, they say.

And you believed him? Why? How did you make sure he really had one. If he didn’t you may have installed one, you know? if you did, you must NOW install a Phobia for a Phobia, which is easy. Just play a slightly different movie and add JAWS soundtract to it.

DONE.

What is he wanted to have one but didn’t get it YET. It is useful to have phobias of certain things.

For instance, Mother in Law phobia (that however can be cured with laxative tea at dinner when they visit SUDDENLY) and play the Jaws soundtract (gently) in the background.

Here is my response to them.

NLP techniques which are numerous, by themselves do not work. They are the tools we use within specific contexts. A tool, however great, is a usless tool unless applied for specific reasons in a specific context, with a specific, verifiable outcome to be achieved.

In order for these great tools to work, I tell them, they need to go back to the “drawing board” and be able to delineate the parameters of the context they are deling with. Make sure you are dealing with what you are told. If he says he a has a phobia, make darn sure it is and that he doesn’t want it.

Nine times out of ten, they have a different problem from the one they want you to believe they have.

Sometimes all they want is a “date”-with you..someone to spill their guts in front of, without any intention of having anything changed, expecting nurturing……… For this purpose, obviously, you will reach out for different tools ( I have a few for emergencies).

I think, by the way, these 8 year long weekly therapist visits are nothing else than contextualized dates. After that many years, people know each other better than spouses. Speaking of polygamy…….

They need to employ the observational skiils, listening skills and question- asking skills, to gather as much information as they can, in order to figure out the situation and how the context had been created.

When they are sure to be sure that surely they know what outcome they are wanting to get, the art begins.

Only then, are the tools useful to elicit the desired outcome (MAKE SURE, IT IS DESIRED, not just by you but by THEM).

In our view, training practitioners needs to be based on the principle of teaching a structure. Students must “organically be drawn to structure delineation. Once we know the structure of the client’s experience, we know how they consistently achieve a particular state, and what they want to change and why, our job is really easy. A structure of anything, including an emotional state ceases to be the the structure if the foundational elements are rearranged or removed.

In order to make a difference in someone’s life, we need to be able to reconstruct for ourselves the model of the world that client had been creating for themselves, understand the structure of it, design a new one that works, use the tools and then verify from our own and a client’s standpoint that this we wanted to achieve had been achieved WITHIN THE ECOLOGY OF THE CONTEXT.

Unfortunately there are many people out there who do not understand the elegance of these methods, and their power. They go into the world teaching others NLP and doing ineffective work with clients, leading to a misunderstanding of this incredible methodology and Richard Bandler’s original intent in Santa Cruz.

Its’ time for a CHANGE!

(The Original Facebook Note was written
by Anita Maria Koslowski)

So…if you’re ready for a change, and you want to learn the tools, techniques — along with the “elegance of these methods, and their power” — please check out the upcoming NLP Practitioner Certification Training Program being taught in Victoria, BC (starting in less than 4 weeks!)… you can find more information here:

I was on of the local authors who was interviewed by Karen Elgersma on The Daily Show about their experience of writing and publishing their books. It featured Julie Salisbury and the InspireABook system and included some of the experiences of self-published authors.

This video has some hints and tips for any writers curious about the reality of publishing their own book — you can listen to real people talk about their own real life experience from Vancouver Island and the options available to these writers as they struggled through the process of writing and publishing their books. Check it out…

For anyone interested in becoming an author in 2010, I highly recommend attending one of Julie’s InspireABook workshops:

InspireABook Intensive Weekend

When: January 16th and 17th, 2010
Where: Victoria Executive Center on Fort St. in Victoria, BC, Canada
Time: 10am to 4pm with homework assignments on the Saturday.
Full Price: $495
Early Bird Price: $397

At the weekend workshop you will learn:

• How to get organized, get focused and overcome writers block!
• How to use “mind-maps” to organize your outline and chapters.
• How to use the unique InspireABook™ binder system to organize your material.
• Understand the editing and publishing industry and all the options available to you to get published professionally.
• How to write a winning book proposal and marketing plan for mainstream publisher submission.
• How to market your book and get media exposure

And here are some of the testimonials Julie has received:

The structure has given me a starting point and given me a plan for writing in bite size chunks/goals. I found the binder worksheets, mindmaps and group discussions really good.

Janice Henshaw

Julie Salisbury has a way of pulling the book out of your very heart when you don’t even know it’s there. She is the writer’s mid-wife. I have not stopped since Sunday Julie, it’s still very disjointed but it pours.

Moira Gardener, Writer and Entrepreneur

I want to thank you for holding my feet to the fire with your probing and being the catalyst for me to figure out what the book is really about. I don’t think I would have gotten to this stage without you.Writing this book is not only very joyous for me but has raised my awareness to another level.It never seizes to amaze me how the right people always show up in my life at the right time.
Thank you sooo much for being such a big part of this joyous journey.
With much love and gratitude.

Kucki Low, Author “Keep your head in the clouds – South Africa’s first woman airline pilot”

I found Julie and the Inspire A Book program while working out a deal for self publishing a craft book Gem Tree Sculptures. My book was 90% complete at the time or so I thought. Through the course of the Inspire A Book program I learned that there was more to publishing a book than just writing the chapters and putting it together. It was valuable input for a book that I thought was completed.
Julie was able to answer all questions regarding the book publishing process I completely endorse the Inspire A Book program to any aspiring writer or even a seasoned writer.
Thanks Julie for a great program and I’m actually looking forward to writing my second book.

Dana James, Author “Gem Tree Sculptures”

As you can see, this workshop is just as beneficial if your book idea is just in your head or your manuscript is complete and you need help transforming it into a published book!

CLICK HERE FOR MORE INFO

Hello y’all. I have some wonderful new announcements…

  …two, in fact.

First…

…I’ve been working on a special secret project for the last couple months — putting together a new downloadable 6-Step Verbal Self Defense Training Manual filled with over 20 exercises specifically designed to help you build your skills will be coming soon — VERY SOON! — and that’s not even the best part … There will be a special discount offer for all the people who have subscribed to the Verbal Defense Tactics eNewsletter or joined their Verbal Self Defense Facebook Fan Page! So, watch for its release later this week, and start preparing for a bully free 2010!

Second…

…I still have a few advanced copies of my new Verbal Self Defense for The Workplace book and I’m offering them as part of a Christmas special.

There are 38 37 35 32 30 Advance Copies of the book still available!

Here’s the deal: we are huge supporters of Trish and the Babes over at Babes Go Bare For Cancer. We do know, however, that we can’t do it alone, so… for the next week while supplies last get your Advance Copy of Dr. Scott’s Verbal Self Defense for the Workplace for $20 (soon to be released for $27) and $5 of that will go to the BC Cancer Foundation on behalf of Babes Go Bare for Cancer!

Delivery within the Victoria area: free!

Delivery outside of Victoria: shipping is extra, we will calculate it and get back to you.

Payment: By cheque (made payable to Soaring Success), cash or Paypal .

If paying via cash or cheque, you can give it to us when we deliver.

UPDATE: as you probably saw above, since we announced this, copies are going pretty quick… we hope to do all local deliveries on Friday the 18th.

It’s funny — not in a ‘ha-ha’ sort of way, but more of a ‘hmmm…interesting’ kinda way — I recently had a discussion by email with someone who commented on the My Story section of my blog. It’s the place where I tell the story of using NLP to help learn to control my depression. They said something that left me thinking that it might be hard for people to realize that no matter who you are or how you’re raised, it only takes one person to give you love enough to help get you through the difficult times in life … as it’s been said:

To the world you may only be one person … but to one person you may be the world.

– That person for me growing up was my dad.

Being inspired to think back on all the times in my childhood that I remember filled with joy and happiness, I realized that they almost all incorporated my father in some way or another:

• Camping at Lake Newell in Brooks, Alberta
• Hiking in Dinosaur Provincial Park
• Watching the ball drop in Times Square one New Years Eve
• Teaching me Judo moves while play-wrestling
• Making me a sand-box in the backyard
• Building me a rope swing
• Teaching me to cook tex-mex stew and how to barbeque pork chops
• Taking me to the airport and letting me go to visit my friend in Victoria by myself
• Sitting on the back deck watching the sunset
• Taking me to the muppets movie even though you wanted to see something else
• Letting me rent “Every Which Way But Loose” for the millionth time
• Playing the same boring card games with me all the times I was in the hospital
• Watching the Stanley Cup playoffs together
• Watching the late night news while eating popcorn
• Scratching my back to help calm me when I was violently sick and scared
• Letting me steal sips of your coffee
• Talking with me about ways to deal with bullies when they picked on me
• Trusting me to set my own bed time and be responsible for getting up for school the next day
• Sitting next to my hospital bed in the emergency room at 3:00am with a calm, steady expression of confidence, while you reassured me that everything will be okay

And the list goes on and on. My dad supported me and encouraged me whenever things got bad with my mom and through all those experiences I learned to be the man I am today. He was the one person when I was a kid that I could depend on no matter how bad things got. Now, as a father myself, it is those memories which I use to set the standard of being the best dad I can be.

Forever will I be grateful for all the things you taught me and all the gifts you gave me … and most of all, I’m grateful for the love you showed me. Thank you.